COVER YOUR VIRGIN EARS!
I have to warn you…this isn’t going to be pretty. If you get offended by swearing…don’t read on!
This has NOTHING to do with weight loss. Actually…maybe it does because if my hubby does this…my weight loss could go either 2 ways. Either I’ll lose a ton due to stress or I’ll gain for the same reason.
My hubby calls me from Alberta last night to tell me he wants to quite his job! Are you FUCKING KIDDING ME! It’s less then a month until Christmas and he drops this load on me 2 days before my birthday. He’s miserable working away from home and I get that. BUT…this was HIS decision to take this job. He started working on the oil rigs in August…quite the job he was doing at the time…and decided to do better for our family. So….not counting the debt we were already in…he accumulates MORE debt to start this new job. It wasn’t a big deal at the time because we knew the money would be good and could ultimately pull us out of debt. During these 3-4 months..he’s managed to get his credit back on track and make it possible for our children to go to college and us get a mortgage in the near future. We are entering a recession here! DAMN IT!! He says he needs me to be supportive. I’m sorry..I just can’t support a decision that could FUCK our family! At the same time….his emotional health is more important. The company he works for does offer FREE counciling and the phone number is plastered all over the damn rig so….why hasn’t he called it? Wish I knew. He says he’s tried and done his best but…in my eyes…if you haven’t called that number yet to get professional help with your feelings….you haven’t tried hard enough or done all that you can. I’m scared for what this means for our family and mostly my children :(. They say this recession is going to be 10X worse then the one in the 80’s. I’m worried that if we suffer extreme financial hardship…I may recent him for this :(. The last time I supported his decision to quite a job we ended up having to do a debt consolidation…..We had wolves at the door wanting money and a NEW BORN BABY! I just know that if he decides to do this now….before Christmas and before we have a chance to pay off all our debt….the outcome id NOT going to be good. WHAT THE FUCK IS HE THINKING!!!!!! *Sigh* Thanks for listening BuddySlimmers. I’m sorry this was long. I actually could go on for hours!!
I am sorry you are having to deal with this right around the holidays. Stress anytime is bad enough but this time of year seems to triple it. Perhaps you can work out an agreement with your husband if he finishes out the year with the company then he can look for another job with your total support. That would help with the bills and improve his mental health also.
Yeah, bad timing for sure. That is brutal. I can understand both of your positions. His job is both hard on, and good for, your family - but it must be tough for him to do it away from everyone he loves. Especially around the holidays.
Counselling may or may not help with that, but it would be worth a try. However, he does need to do what he feels is best for him - even if it isn’t as beneficial for the family as you both had initially wanted. He may need to do it even if that means that you may end up resenting him. I hope that you both can come to some kind of compramise like magan mentioned.
I hope you guys can get something figured out soon. Hopefully you can convince him to try the counseling first, and then maybe he’d have an easier time out there. Or maybe he could just find some sort of replacement job before he quits this one so maybe it wouldn’t be so much of an issue. Best of luck with this!
I agree with everyone here, do talk to him and see if you guys can work something out. Best wishes to you guys.
Hang in there!! I was going to say something more but I see everyone has given you good advice–COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION and COMMUNICATION!! If I remember correctly, he has been pretty happy being far away from you guys, so no amount of money is worth for him if it costs him the absence of his beloved children and wife. You can be supportive I know, but you will be better at it if he hangs in there for a few more months, I am sure!
Hang in there and like everyone said, have a heart to heart with him and express your concerns for the family!! Good luck!
I agree with everyone. Maybe he just needs a few days off or something? I know it’s scary with the economy and holidays. We’re here for ya.
I’m so sorry to hear about this, Michelle. I agree that maybe counseling will help put things in perspective. If he could hold on for just a little bit longer, doesn’t he get 4 months off or something? It seems like I remember you saying something about that. Anyway, I hope you all can talk about it and come to some sort of a compromise that will work for your whole family.
Yea…he only has to go out there 4 more times and then he’s off for 5 months! He JUST took 2 weeks off work and has been back for a couple days (Ithink that’s hard too…to pull himself away). ALSO…after he’s done this hitch out there…he’s going to be off for a month. It’s not and it is about money. I can handle living with less money…I CAN’T handle living with none!
Thanks for all your advice ladies